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Masking is when a neurodivergent person acts in a way that makes them look like they are neurotypical.
 “Neurodivergent” means a person whose brain works in a different way.
“Neurotypical” means a person whose brain works in a way that most people see as typical.

Masking may also be called camouflaging. This is when a neurodivergent person tries to hide their natural traits. They may copy the actions, words, or behaviour of people who are not neurodivergent.
Some people mask because they want to fit in, avoid being judged, or feel accepted.

Examples of masking

  • Forcing yourself to sit still when your body wants to move

  • Using planned words or “scripts” to make small talk, even when it feels strange or hard

  • Copying how other people act in social situations so that others will accept you

The impact of masking

  • Masking can hide the real you. This means that your true needs may not be seen, and you may not get the right support or helpful changes (called “adjustments”).

  • If you mask very well, people may not believe you when you say something is wrong or that you are finding things hard.

  • Masking can turn stress on the outside into stress on the inside. This may lead to anxiety or depression. This can happen when needs are not understood or met, and when a person feels they cannot be their true self.

  • Masking can make it hard to know what is real and what is part of the act. You may feel like you cannot show your real self and have to pretend to be someone else so that people will like you.

Masking is causing me (or my child) some challenges. What can I do?

  • Encourage your child to be their own unique self. Help them know that they do not need to hide who they are or feel pressure to act like someone else.

  • Masking uses a lot of energy. If you need to mask in some situations, plan time afterward to rest and refill your energy. Try to do things that feel safe and make you happy.

  • Remember that you are not alone. Many people have the same feelings and challenges. It can help to connect with others who understand. You could join a support group for neurodivergent people. You could also find an online space where you can be yourself without fear of judgement